Hello, sat Shree akal, namaskar or adabh.

It’s the year of 2020! It’s the year where one after another pandemic has hit and we survived as a whole, despite our gender. We as a whole whether women or men, girls or boys, most of us followed the rules. Despite the million deaths we managed to save a million more. I appreciate those at the frontlines and those individuals like you and I who are following the rules that are placed by the government during this time of COVID-19 crisis. The pandemics has impacted every single individual in this world and their careers, from fields of medicine to science, businesses to casual workers. But have we ever imagined the hidden impacts on women that don’t come into mind as a first thought of concern. Why is it that our governments think about financial problems rather than those who suffer from inequality if not in our community but around the world, why? Is it because…?

It is evident from the title of this blog, that I will be talking about “Women Empowerment.” Now, women empowerment is not just depended on being able to obtain equal rights, freedom (within the responsible boundaries) or giving equal opportunities. It is extremely easy for anyone, whether it’s me or you speaking or advertising your concerns on women empowerment through meetings, conferences, or even in social media. To just talk about women empowerment, as a way of showing concerns as a so-called “responsible person” of a society, will not help those that need it without any action! By having discussions might impact an individual in a very little amount but those who really need to be empowered do not need these so-called campaigns, social media or people as such. In the history pages from past and present women have and are suffering from domestic violence, inequality, discrimination, lack of education and lack of confidence. WHY! Because we as a society understand the suffering that women around the world are dealing with however, never learn from our past mistakes. I say it’s an error of not only of human thinking, lack of government to end this inequality but also women. Why do you (women) think that your less than everyone or have that fear of what that so-called “society” will say. Instead of thinking negatively and taking it personally you need to strive for education and be capable enough to step in this cruel world and stand for yourself as a women. You now what; you are capable enough to build bridges of success and stir your destine the way you want! Women need to be empowered through the strongest tool – education. They don’t need to be subservient to anyone, but at the same time, men must change their mindset towards women. If they are more respectful towards them, then things will change at the grassroots level. It will happen slowly, but everyone has to move together.

“Education isn’t simply about literacy, it’s about giving girls back their power!”

This could only be achieved with ACTION. This action must come from women themselves and yourself because if you stand for yourself and voice your opinion then you are standing up for the rest of those women that are helpless, coz you are becoming a solution to every women’s suffering in your community as well as in a global scale!

What we as women need to understand is to face our own fears of failure, to be capable enough to change the thinking of women “being restricted from everything, treated as house maid who should just take of the family, cook, clean and never have the freedom to express themselves because they fear!” They (women) fear of being separated. They fear about what their so-called society and what its people going to think. Why? Why are woman and only women are faced with these so-called stereotypical thinking about society or what they are going to say. I cannot stress enough on the point that whether it is a woman or man, we are born in this world alone and we are destined to die alone one day in our life span! So, do not ever let a another person decide your destine and your life.

Our weakness as women is emotion and women are often their own harshest critics. We fight an internal dialogue about our worth. We hold back in case we are wrong. What would you do if you were fearless? Being fearless is both a decision and an action. It doesn’t mean living a life devoid of fear, but living a life in which our fears don’t hold us back. Fearless is the audacity to be unhindered by failure or judgement, and to walk with freedom, strength and hope in the face of things unknown. Fearless is feeling doubt and insecurity, but deciding that something else is more important. Being fearless is to be free of the constraints of self-doubt and external judgement. When it’s easier to reside in the shadows than to show your light, we encourage women to make the choice to step out and be seen. When women fear less, they become fearless. They can then do what they thought they couldn’t and say what they thought they shouldn’t. It’s a choice, with the ultimate rewards of true freedom. Fearlessness, is not the absence of fear, but rather about having the strength to push beyond the fear. We need to start raising girls to be leaders rather than followers and teach them that they have every right to follow their dreams with fear restricting them! Because you know what, that is what real empowerment is when you stop fearing from your failure.

“As a women we need to keep pushing harder so that society has no choice but to take us seriously.”

– Zazibini Tunzi

I believe in practicing positive self-affirmations and talking kindly to yourself. Though never a good time to start realizing your dreams, I urge women to stop putting it off and to make the necessary changes now. A firm believer in the value of mental health, women can’t even begin to be the best versions of themselves unless they have addressed their own mental health. Even though some that stigma needs to change. You, as a female student in Lyndale Secondary College have all the facility that are required with education to make you the most capable person so what is the problem?

Nearly every person I know is afraid of something whether it is failure or not. Whether it’s a doctor, entrepreneur, lawyer, or student – we’re all afraid to fail one way or another. Being afraid to fail in human nature is an automatic feeling that generates. But in order to face your fears, you have to step outside of your comfort zone. Human egos become so engulfed in what we are doing, that we tend to lose our identities in the process, and when things don’t go expected – it can feel like the end of the world. How can you learn how to utilize and regain control of your fear of failing and use that to your advantage? We’re giving you five strategies you can use to help you in overcoming your fear of failure as you navigate and move forward in life. Check them out below:

Overcoming Your Fear of Failure

Shift your Goals:

Reframing your goals contributes greatly when you’re trying to overcome your fear of failure. Doing things such as expanding your daily, weekly, or monthly goals to include learning new things will help your realize failure is only a mindset because there is always something new to be learned and mastered. An example of this would be instead of setting a goal to earn a certain amount of money within a month’s time frame, instead you can focus on mastering a new trait or hobby – something that doesn’t lend a bigger failure result, because regardless of your outcome – you are still winning and learning something valuable.

Make it a habit to Step Outside Your Comfort Zone:

Stepping outside of your comfort zone is for sure one way to tackle your fear of failure. Being able to do things you aren’t normally accustomed to doing, gives your mind and body the opportunity to explore things, that you may end up enjoying. Deciding to make the first move when approaching a person you have interest in may not be something you normally do, but stepping outside if your comfort zone allows you to get a feel for it – and possibly a first date!

Visualize Obstacles:

When visualizing your obstacles, positive thinking alone is merely not enough. Plenty of research and studies have shown that the best outcomes are established when we balance positive thinking with visualizing the future obstacles and struggles we may encounter. Imagine a situation in which you are afraid of failure – visualize yourself hitting on obstacle, which will allow yourself to feel that failure – and then picture yourself moving forward. Afterwards, spend a few minutes planning how to overcome any obstacle that may be standing in your way, and see yourself defeating those obstacles and succeeding!

Ask Yourself These Three Questions:

The best response to failure is to ask yourself these three powerful questions:

1. What did I learn from this situation?

2. How can I grow as a person from this experience?

3.What are three positive things about this situation?

When you attempt to list three positive things about your “failure” you may feel a bit of resistance and lack of motivation at first, however – stay persistent with this exercise, and before you know it, you will see a new opportunity from this said “failure.”

Face Your Fears:

When all else fails and you’re still stuck with the idea of overcoming your fear of failure – face them. Many of us allow the idea of fear to hinder or paralyze us because we simply don’t like to feel it. However, if you allow yourself to feel it and actually face it, you will realize how quickly it passes and how manageable the situation becomes. The next time you begin to notice fear trying to creep up on you, take a few minutes to sit quietly by yourself and take deep breaths – the more you do this exercise, the more you will allow your body’s natural response to knick in and tranquility will begin to take over.